Sunday, June 2, 2013

GOOD , BETTER, BEST

Good , Better, Best
Never let it Rest
'Till the Good is Better
and the Better
is BEST
That is what my mother always told me.
Everything she did in life... and her accomplishments were many
she did her very BEST
now MOM is gone
She died May 21st at 2:15 in the morning
I will make this
OR TRY TO MAKE THIS
a short tribute to my mom
She was only 81, but has been cursed with ill health nearly her whole life
about 20 years ago she had a tumor removed from her head
and it changed everything about her
in regards to her abilities
and her Zest for life
she became a recluse after that
as she didn't like the physical damage it did to her
then she developed tumors in her stomach
She used to oil paint, sold her paintings in Waterton
National Park
owned and ran a gift store in Calgary
ribbon winning quilter
directed plays
wrote endless historical books of our family history
(I could go on and on into her earlier years as an athlete)
Now she is Gone
Seems so hard to believe.
BUT
as sad and heartbreaking as it is
it is an answer to prayer
she fell just 3 days before and broke her hip
her death came as complications from that surgery
ME, my SISTER, and my AUNT
sat by her bedside
held her hand, sang to her
and watched her take her last breath
An extremely sacred experience as far as I'm concerned
KNOWING
and BELIEVING
she just went through another door
to those waiting on the other side for her
I am excited to think my son who died 2 1/2 years ago
must have been hugging and kissing her
I remember in the hospital, during some of her delerium
she'd say
"I just want mom and dad to come and get me"
I think they did.
Mom pretty much had told my sister (her care giver)
how she wanted her funeral to go
NOTHING big
Just a graveside service
Well, wouldn't ya know it was pouring rain
She always loved the wild flowers of Alberta
and so we went into the foothills of the mountains
and gathered up a bunch of Glacier Lilies
 

me, my aunt and sister in law
had to tie my hair back and put on a hat
my sister, my aunt and me
placing the flowers on her casket
IN THE POURING RAIN

who would have thought I'd be wearing jeans and gum boots to my mom's funeral

My poor dad has been having a hard time with it all

dad and my sister
He just wants to Die now too


I love this little country cemetary
where some day I will also be

I have ancestors back to my Great Great Grandparents who are there
all the way up to now, my mom
my brother's little boy is buried there as well

I surely will miss my mom
It's a hard thing
a hard thing for those of us still here on earth

 my sister, dad, my brother and me at a little luncheon after the graveside
feeling kind of chilled from all the cold and rain



 
 LOVE YOU MOM
take care of Matt for me
and God Be With You 'Till We Meet Again

p.s. sorry I haven't visited your blogs lately
I have been back and forth helping my sister
and now I have tons of stuff needing taking care of on our property
may take a bit of a break


30 comments:

Becky said...

Oh I was excited to see your blog pop up with an update ... but so sorry to hear what you have been going through. Hugs to you and your family and your sweet dad.

The Gathering Place said...

I'm sorry to hear of your mom's passing. It is still hard, even when ill health is a problem. I miss my mom every day. I'm sure your mother was pleased with the simple funeral in the beautiful country. The wild flowers were beautiful!

joanne said...

missing my mom and my son have been the hardest times of my life but like you I believe they are dancing in heaven and celebrating the return of your mother. She was obviously a wonderful woman, friend and mother who will be dearly missed. I feel so bad for your dad, mine was the same way, just had no reason to live anymore. I tried to carry his grief for him but of course that doesn't work and he went to be with her not long after. They were only 70...which seems young to me now!! take care dear Wendy, you already know how to grieve so I will not give you any wise advice...know you are loved and I am thinking of you with all my heart. take care.

" Hit It......." said...

Can I tell you how much I feel for what you are going through. It is so hard for the ones who are left behind. Thank goodness for our belief in the after-life.

I am so proud of you for this tribute. I have not been able to write my dad's yet and it has been three months since he passed.

btw - I know your mom will be with Matt. Hugs!

Sherri B. said...

Bless your heart, this is such a difficult time, even knowing that she is in heaven, it is still hard.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers. We will all be here when you get a chance to post again..don't worry about visiting us.

Much love an big hugs.

Pondside said...

How you must miss your mum. Knowing that she is with loved ones eases the pain - but your dad's sorrow is painful for you to witness. Such a hard time of life for those couples who had decades together.
Hugs....

Pedaling said...

oh you sweet father...i can just see the sorrow in that picture on his face (the graveside pic)
I think that's the hardest part of death..it's not that the person died necessary, it's those like your sweet father who are left behind. I am sure he is ready to go. I hope that he can carry on with purpose and stregnth until it is his time. I am sure your mom is still a big part of his life.
such a spiritual experience combined with so many emotions...it's good, though. speaking from experience, I think it is good.
hugs and much love to you!

Diane said...

A great big hug reaching out to you my friend. Even though you know she is no longer in pain, doesn't make her passing any easier. Sounded like a beautiful funeral, just what she wanted. Bless you and your family.

Kristina P. said...

I love this. It seems exactly what she would have wanted.

Barbaloot said...

Wendy- I'm sorry about your mom. Even if this life is hard for them, it's still difficult to let go. Looks like what you and your family did for her funeral was just what she wanted---what a great way to honor her!

"Alone again.... naturally!" said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. I know how you feel about them greeting each other on the other side. I felt the same as you when my Mom passed away, also about 2 yr.s after our son. Sometimes I feel that she went to look after him. Take care of yourself, it's healing time again. Oh and I love the cartoon/picture you included of the passing that included pets. Very sweet. Cathy

mCat said...

The picture of your dad at the graveside literally broke my heart.

Hugs to you. What a beautiful tribute and the wildflowers are lovely.

Peace in knowing Matt and she are sharing some laughs, hugs and good times

Julie Harward said...

She sounds like an awesome woman who accomplished so much in her life and left a great legacy for you to follow. Life is tough, we do our best then it's heading on the path to the next step of our progression. I am sure family members were there to bring her on in, and how happy she must be!

Michele said...

So sorry Wendy. Your dad looks so lost. My day is coming and it will not be my mom but it will be my dad. Hang in there kiddo. Pleased for Matt and now he has both his grandmas. Glad you are posting again. Take all the time you need and want.

jeanne, backyard neighbor said...

Wendy, this is a beautiful tribute to your mom. I know she had to be a very special person to have a daughter like you. She sounds like an amazing person and I am glad she didn't have to suffer for a long time after her fall. I went through a long illness with my mom too and it is so hard even if you know they will be leaving us we still miss them so much. I am so sad about your dad as well. You are all in our prayers through the grieving process.

Please don't even think about visiting. Just try to keep your spirits up and that is a big enough job.
I love you dearly my sweet sista friend.
Jeanne xoxoxo

Deserae said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your mom's passing.....I will be praying for you and your family. My mom didn't want a big funeral either....she wanted a celebration of her life. The wildflowers are so beautiful....
~Des

camp and cottage living said...

Wendy
I'm so sorry to hear of your Mother's passing, yet happy for her knowing that she won't be suffering any longer. And what a joyful reunion with your dear son! I'll say a prayer for all of you who will be missing her-especially your Dad.
It hurts for a long while. You just miss them so much....
Take care. You will be in my thoughts.
((Hugs))

dbs said...

Sorry about your Mom. Losing my Dad made me feel like a kid again. I imagine it feels like that for you too. Yet, as ever, you demonstrate charm and grace. Especially with this. Especially with this.

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

I am in tears.

Wendy, you have used words a lot better than I could or maybe ever will, to talk about the death of a mother. My mum is gone now 28 years, and I still can only make short snippets about it all.

I am IMPRESSED with her life, as you describe it. But get this.....it ain't over. You know why? She planted a seed in you. You are planting that very seed in your children, they are planting it in your grands....sounds trite, I know. But the simplest things escape us for that very reason, because they ARE SIMPLE. But so profound is ONE LIFE, like your mother's life, that was and IS impressive. But all of that cannot take the present pain away. Your dear father...oh dear, I can't bear it.

Bless you, bless all your family as you again experience a loss unbearable to understand.

Thank you for coming to visit me; it is always a joy to see that gorgeous smile of yours. AND...keep talking to you husband about making a change!!!!!!!!!!!! Anita

Mimi Sue said...

So very sorry to hear about your mom. I know it's so hard to let them go. But I do know she is happy and at peace and you're right enjoying the reunion. My mom passed in 2006 and I still miss her every day. Mimi

Linda @ Itsy Bits And Pieces said...

I'm sorry to hear this news, Wendy...it's so hard when your parents are elderly and ill, but I know you must miss her so. A simple service like that is just what I would want myself...sending prayers for comfort, and a special prayer for your father... XO

Garden of Egan said...

Ah, dear Wendy.

Such a beautiful tribute. I can totally imagine that Matt was there to welcome her.
Bless you as you go through this.

Prayers for your dad as well.

heather said...

Beautiful post.

Thinking of you and your family.

tammy said...

So sweet that she said she just wanted her mom and dad to come get her. And your poor dad....I understand his feelings all too well. I know without a doubt there was a happy reunion on the other side. Love you.

H.K. said...

A beautiful (and teary) tribute to your mom. She sounds like she lived a very wonderful fulfilled life surrounded by a husband and children that loved her. It seems like you had a great relationship with your mom- something that many women wish they had with their own mothers, me included. My prayers are with you and your family at this time. Have a wonderful restful break & look forward to reading your next post. Luv ya!

DesertHen said...

This was a beautiful tribute to your mom! Your mother sounded like a wonderful, accomplished lady! She has a lovely daughter, who I can tell, loved her mother very much! I'm sending prayers and hugs your way!

jeanne, backyard neighbor said...

Hi Wendy, I have not been on my computer for nearly a week. It is good to be visiting you tonight.

While we were gone there must have been a serious storm here. Roads are washed out including a bit of our drive way. Not serious but a big mud slide fell on the road to our house. A real mess. Too much rain that's for sure. What we really need is a good rain in Colorado where the wildfires are bad. Anyway today was a nice day here and it feels good to be home.

Love you sista and you are in my thoughts so often these days.
Jeanne xoxoxo

Roslyn said...

My dear I am so sorry no matter how long we have them it is never long enough.
Hugs
xxx

Tina said...

My Condolences Wendy. I was so touched by this post. It is so nice to know what we know. I love the drawing of loved ones waiting while those left behind are grieving. I also love the photo of you and your sister placing flowers on her coffin. The picture of your dad is heartbreaking. What a love they must have!

Jane In The Jungle said...

I'm so sorry Wendy.